This is so good and so relatable. I think poking holes at things and trying to deflate potentially good plans or ideas is a coping mechanism for having dealt with some real crappy experiences. It’s a way of aligning yourself with and preparing for disappointment. It’s not necessarily bad but it’s just trying to take some control over the unknowns. At least for me.
I totally agree, and find it hard to be (close) friends with folks who can't--or won't-- find pleasure in simple everyday things.
This is so good and so relatable. I think poking holes at things and trying to deflate potentially good plans or ideas is a coping mechanism for having dealt with some real crappy experiences. It’s a way of aligning yourself with and preparing for disappointment. It’s not necessarily bad but it’s just trying to take some control over the unknowns. At least for me.
Oh, it's definitely a coping mechanism! I get very nervous about the unknowns.
I love this so so much. Life truly is about finding the pleasure and joy in the little things because that is what we spend most of our time doing.
This is an excellent reminder, thank you. Do you mind sharing the podcast?
Of course! It was This is Joy & Claire. (The episode wasn’t about happiness, it was just a comment Joy made.)