Right there with you. This time it is so much worse. I don't even know what to do, I'm just - numb. I don't want to read any takes on what happened, I don't want to read statistical breakdowns, I don't want to see that lying sack of shit's smug fucking face or hear his voice or drive past that one house with all that campaign signage out front like a big F-U to me and everyone like me. I just want it to not be happening, and I'm doing SO SO WELL with that. Just really well. So well.
exactly. and every time I calm down a bit, another things pops into my head - like how Bannon will get some big title & position, that awful Miller creep, his kids, especially Don Jr, how Vance will be set up for the next Pres campaign, Musk, RFK - as Health secratary!!!!!!!!!! there's no end . I don't want to permanently freak out, but hard not to.
I wasn't surprised like in I was in 2016, but I was heartbroken. This has been a rough week and I'm trying to figure out what I can do to make a difference in the world. I got up on Wednesday and made myself go to the gym (I told my husband I needed to be strong to fight the patriarchy, but I really just needed the endorphins). Tonight I spent 4 hours at a food pantry cooking meals to be delivered to seniors tomorrow with a bunch of other women who were also feeling despondent. I need to figure out concrete ways to put my feelings into action.
I'm really struggling with this. I voted for inclusivity and positivity but when I heard that white women, Black men, and Latino men overwhelmingly voted for the fascist, I thought "what did I vote for then?" They didn't even vote for themselves!!! What do you do with that??? What will those white women do when their daughters need IVF or miscarriage care? What will those Latino men do when their loved ones are deported next year? Someone needs to make it make sense to me.
There was a LOT of press/media coverage about “Black men” voting for Trump. It was completely blown up by the media when it wasn’t a real factor—much like they went nuts covering how “old & feeble” Joe Biden was supposed to be while conveniently ignoring how old & feeble the Orange monster truly is. So all this to say, it’s easy to see how you might think Black men were not supporting Harris, but it really wasn’t true.
And, please know I’m not sharing this in a finger-wagging way at all. I’m in no mood to hear our group beat up one another for how this turned out—the truth is that a large percentage of our country fell for the lies that his campaign was spreading about the economy, immigration, etc. The rise of Fox News & other right wing media has truly changed much of our country for the worst. If you follow Heather Cox Richardson, her newsletter from yesterday talks about this. It’s a good read.
Your words are exactly what I couldn't put into words. We were one of the 250,000 that cancelled our Wash Post subscription after that weasel Bezos pulled their endorsement, but now I can't read anything about it. To echo another comment, I don't want to read the analysis on what went wrong. I'm just so sad. I read something today that has stuck with me. Salem went after "witches", now it's just going to be America going after women. I'm heartbroken, especially for the women that have daughters, and seeing how the male vote went to Trump, how many of those men will lose their daughters because of this?
Yesterday I got up, had pastry, doubled my donations to abortion access, and then went back to bed. I also canceled my subscription to the New York Times because I don't want to see that f****** Cheeto everyday. But today I texted or called friends and family. This made me feel a lot stronger. I know this feeling is going to waver, but right now, I'll take it.
I actually was surprised, so that feels particularly stupid. I'm going to go turtle mode for a bit and tune out the news, because the bit that is getting through my blackout is depressing as hell.
In a little while, I'll dust myself off and figure out if I want to continue to live in this red state or if this is the impetus to get out and then how can I make a (small) difference in my community. That's how I got through term one -- focusing on helping the vulnerable here.
I could not comment when you first shared this because it was all too raw & too painful. But thank you for sharing with us and giving us a space to talk about it. It helps.
It still hurts and I find myself crying at times, cursing at times, & sometimes feeling numb. How can we go through this again? And he has no guard rails this time…I’m devastated. For now, I’m trying to allow myself to grieve and process these feelings but to also find little moments of joy in every day life—husband and I finished Season 2 of The Diplomat last night; so good! It’s helpful to know that there are people like you (& fellow readers here) that feel this too.
These next few years are going to be incredibly hard and difficult, and his cult are going to suffer even though they seem to think that life is about to get so good for them (of course, we are all going to suffer but some targeted groups more than others). The rise of white wing media, like Fox & others that have followed, has truly hurt our country. The outright lies they have spread have dumbed down much of our population and it’s hard to fight that. There is going to be so much to push back against as the orange monster comes back into office. I know we are all going to have to find ways to fight back but we also have to find ways to rest and recover when we can. Not saying any of this will be easy though.
Right there with you. This time it is so much worse. I don't even know what to do, I'm just - numb. I don't want to read any takes on what happened, I don't want to read statistical breakdowns, I don't want to see that lying sack of shit's smug fucking face or hear his voice or drive past that one house with all that campaign signage out front like a big F-U to me and everyone like me. I just want it to not be happening, and I'm doing SO SO WELL with that. Just really well. So well.
exactly. and every time I calm down a bit, another things pops into my head - like how Bannon will get some big title & position, that awful Miller creep, his kids, especially Don Jr, how Vance will be set up for the next Pres campaign, Musk, RFK - as Health secratary!!!!!!!!!! there's no end . I don't want to permanently freak out, but hard not to.
I wasn't surprised like in I was in 2016, but I was heartbroken. This has been a rough week and I'm trying to figure out what I can do to make a difference in the world. I got up on Wednesday and made myself go to the gym (I told my husband I needed to be strong to fight the patriarchy, but I really just needed the endorphins). Tonight I spent 4 hours at a food pantry cooking meals to be delivered to seniors tomorrow with a bunch of other women who were also feeling despondent. I need to figure out concrete ways to put my feelings into action.
I'm really struggling with this. I voted for inclusivity and positivity but when I heard that white women, Black men, and Latino men overwhelmingly voted for the fascist, I thought "what did I vote for then?" They didn't even vote for themselves!!! What do you do with that??? What will those white women do when their daughters need IVF or miscarriage care? What will those Latino men do when their loved ones are deported next year? Someone needs to make it make sense to me.
I do not intend to start an argument, but NBC News reports that 78% of black men voted for Harris. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna178899
No argument at all....I wasn't quoting facts. It was something that I read but I could have gotten it wrong.
There was a LOT of press/media coverage about “Black men” voting for Trump. It was completely blown up by the media when it wasn’t a real factor—much like they went nuts covering how “old & feeble” Joe Biden was supposed to be while conveniently ignoring how old & feeble the Orange monster truly is. So all this to say, it’s easy to see how you might think Black men were not supporting Harris, but it really wasn’t true.
And, please know I’m not sharing this in a finger-wagging way at all. I’m in no mood to hear our group beat up one another for how this turned out—the truth is that a large percentage of our country fell for the lies that his campaign was spreading about the economy, immigration, etc. The rise of Fox News & other right wing media has truly changed much of our country for the worst. If you follow Heather Cox Richardson, her newsletter from yesterday talks about this. It’s a good read.
Your words are exactly what I couldn't put into words. We were one of the 250,000 that cancelled our Wash Post subscription after that weasel Bezos pulled their endorsement, but now I can't read anything about it. To echo another comment, I don't want to read the analysis on what went wrong. I'm just so sad. I read something today that has stuck with me. Salem went after "witches", now it's just going to be America going after women. I'm heartbroken, especially for the women that have daughters, and seeing how the male vote went to Trump, how many of those men will lose their daughters because of this?
Right? It's just so depressing.
Yesterday I got up, had pastry, doubled my donations to abortion access, and then went back to bed. I also canceled my subscription to the New York Times because I don't want to see that f****** Cheeto everyday. But today I texted or called friends and family. This made me feel a lot stronger. I know this feeling is going to waver, but right now, I'll take it.
I actually was surprised, so that feels particularly stupid. I'm going to go turtle mode for a bit and tune out the news, because the bit that is getting through my blackout is depressing as hell.
In a little while, I'll dust myself off and figure out if I want to continue to live in this red state or if this is the impetus to get out and then how can I make a (small) difference in my community. That's how I got through term one -- focusing on helping the vulnerable here.
I could not comment when you first shared this because it was all too raw & too painful. But thank you for sharing with us and giving us a space to talk about it. It helps.
It still hurts and I find myself crying at times, cursing at times, & sometimes feeling numb. How can we go through this again? And he has no guard rails this time…I’m devastated. For now, I’m trying to allow myself to grieve and process these feelings but to also find little moments of joy in every day life—husband and I finished Season 2 of The Diplomat last night; so good! It’s helpful to know that there are people like you (& fellow readers here) that feel this too.
These next few years are going to be incredibly hard and difficult, and his cult are going to suffer even though they seem to think that life is about to get so good for them (of course, we are all going to suffer but some targeted groups more than others). The rise of white wing media, like Fox & others that have followed, has truly hurt our country. The outright lies they have spread have dumbed down much of our population and it’s hard to fight that. There is going to be so much to push back against as the orange monster comes back into office. I know we are all going to have to find ways to fight back but we also have to find ways to rest and recover when we can. Not saying any of this will be easy though.
Yup. I'm feeling a bit numb and overwhelmed but YOU NAILED IT. Just subscribed financially because you deserve it, and you aren't alone.
Thank you! You are all making me feel so much better.
hard same.